There are three things that you should say to every new mum, whether it’s her first baby or her tenth. They’re very simple really.
- Your baby is so beautiful
- That’s a lovely name
- You look fantastic
It doesn’t matter whether you believe them or not. It doesn’t even matter if she believes them. It’s just great to hear them.
It might seem like a statement of the bleedin obvious, but you should absolutely, definitely, NOT say the opposite of the above. You’d be surprised how often this happens. It’s the round about way that people say things that makes them think they’re being inoffensive. Do any of these sound familiar?
“God, you look exhausted”
“They all look like old men, babies, really, don’t they?”
…and straight from my own mother’s mouth, “What other names did you have on the list?”
Her baby is beautiful and she does look fantastic, because even though she’s probably exhausted she has that lovely glow of a woman who’s just experienced that everyday miracle of birthing her baby. Okay, you’re not crazy about the name but she doesn’t need to know that. She loves it.
Go forth and compliment!