The Top 3 things to say to a new mum

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There are three things that you should say to every new mum, whether it’s her first baby or her tenth.  They’re very simple really.

  1. Your baby is so beautiful
  2. That’s a lovely name
  3. You look fantastic

It doesn’t matter whether you believe them or not. It doesn’t even matter if she believes them.  It’s just great to hear them.

It might seem like a statement of the bleedin obvious, but you should absolutely, definitely, NOT say the opposite of the above.  You’d be surprised how often this happens.  It’s the round about way that people say things that makes them think they’re being inoffensive.  Do any of these sound familiar?

“God, you look exhausted”

“They all look like old men, babies, really, don’t they?”

…and straight from my own mother’s mouth, “What other names did you have on the list?”


Her baby is beautiful and she does look fantastic, because even though she’s probably exhausted she has that lovely glow of a woman who’s just experienced that everyday miracle of birthing her baby.  Okay, you’re not crazy about the name but she doesn’t need to know that.  She loves it.

Go forth and compliment!

8 thoughts on “The Top 3 things to say to a new mum”

      1. No. We told them the name when I was 20 weeks as soon as we found out it was a boy so they had a lot of time. we were very firm about it and they came around. The main protest was that when my husband was a kid they had a dog named Max. (Whom he named because he has always liked that name!) Since the dog has not been with us for about 20 years seemed like bad logic to me 🙂

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