Do you know what a Wheel of Life is?
A very clever man, who gets paid handsomely for his cleverness*, got me to fill one out during the summer. At the time, I didn’t fully understand why he thought it would be a good idea for me to complete one and when I did, I subconsciously chose not to register the results. But I get it now. God, I get it now. It’s taken me this long – with some reflection and the dawn of a new year – to understand it.
The Wheel of Life is a self-reflection tool divided into eight categories that could generally sum up the components of your life as you see it right now: business/career, finances, health, family and friends, romance, personal growth, fun and recreation and physical environment. You reflect on each category and rate your satisfaction with that aspect of your life from 1 to 10, where 1 is closest to the centre and 10 is at the edge.
I rated my satisfaction with six categories of my life between 8 and 10.
8 and 10.
That’s pretty satisfied as life goes, really, isn’t it? In fact, I might go as far as to say it’s unusually satisfied.
I am happy with my health. I have a wonderful and cherished family and strong, positive friendships in my life. I have romance, I am feeling fulfilled with my personal growth, I have fun and recreation. I have a warm, happy home.
Why didn’t I see it before? In that moment my focus was too narrow and I was concentrating on all the wrong things but I realise now that was the problem. It’s not like it’s a new problem. I blogged about it in September and it didn’t click with me at the time that I was trying to tell myself something. But I get it now.
I need to live in the moment.
Life is really wonderful for me. With the exception of two little niggles – two niggles that when I look at the big picture are completely overshadowed by the joy of everything else – I have a rich life. That’s the important part, the big picture. I need to cut my big picture out and paste it where I can see it and just keep those two little niggles underfoot for the time being. When I step back and view my Wheel of Life and take in my big picture, they’re not important at all just right now even if I let myself think they are. I just need to keep reminding myself that. As the song goes…
you’ve got to,
ac-cen-tuate the positive…
So 2013, I’m looking at you, because during the next 365 days at the very minimum I will be living in your moments. One day at a time, one week at a time. Because this is where life is happening, right here, right now, in my six satisfied categories. Life is not happening by looking over my shoulder at the other two. I stick two fingers up in your face, unsatisfactory categories.
2013, I will enjoy you!
*he is not, however, paid handsomely by me. Or at all.