Accentuating the positive

Do you know what a Wheel of Life is?

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A very clever man, who gets paid handsomely for his cleverness*, got me to fill one out during the summer. At the time, I didn’t fully understand why he thought it would be a good idea for me to complete one and when I did, I subconsciously chose not to register the results. But I get it now. God, I get it now. It’s taken me this long – with some reflection and the dawn of a new year – to understand it.

The Wheel of Life is a self-reflection tool divided into eight categories that could generally sum up the components of your life as you see it right now: business/career, finances, health, family and friends, romance, personal growth, fun and recreation and physical environment. You reflect on each category and rate your satisfaction with that aspect of your life from 1 to 10, where 1 is closest to the centre and 10 is at the edge.

I rated my satisfaction with six categories of my life between 8 and 10.

8 and 10.

That’s pretty satisfied as life goes, really, isn’t it? In fact, I might go as far as to say it’s unusually satisfied.

I am happy with my health. I have a wonderful and cherished family and strong, positive friendships in my life. I have romance, I am feeling fulfilled with my personal growth, I have fun and recreation. I have a warm, happy home.

Why didn’t I see it before? In that moment my focus was too narrow and I was concentrating on all the wrong things but I realise now that was the problem. It’s not like it’s a new problem. I blogged about it in September and it didn’t click with me at the time that I was trying to tell myself something. But I get it now.

I need to live in the moment.

Life is really wonderful for me. With the exception of two little niggles – two niggles that when I look at the big picture are completely overshadowed by the joy of everything else – I have a rich life. That’s the important part, the big picture. I need to cut my big picture out and paste it where I can see it and just keep those two little niggles underfoot for the time being. When I step back and view my Wheel of Life and take in my big picture, they’re not important at all just right now even if I let myself think they are. I just need to keep reminding myself that. As the song goes…

you’ve got to,
ac-cen-tuate the positive…

So 2013, I’m looking at you, because during the next 365 days at the very minimum I will be living in your moments. One day at a time, one week at a time. Because this is where life is happening, right here, right now, in my six satisfied categories. Life is not happening by looking over my shoulder at the other two. I stick two fingers up in your face, unsatisfactory categories.

2013, I will enjoy you!

*he is not, however, paid handsomely by me. Or at all.

6 thoughts on “Accentuating the positive”

  1. you’re so right! there’s so much to be thankful for. I don’t think I should do my wheel of life while I’m on maternity leave though, because I’ll cry when I see it when I’m back in work soon.

    i do like the idea of you having a handsomely paid happiness consultant in your life though.

  2. “….latch on to the affirmative…” I place far too much emphasis on those negative niggles. The start of a new year is a good time to read this.

  3. I remember doing one of these a very long time ago, and actually I found it very useful as well. I can’t remember my score, but I don’ think that it was as high as yours.

    It really made me sit up and think about the areas that my score was weak. In retrospect I can say it was a definite turning point in my life.

    I think that gratitude and focusing on what we have is so important. The wheel is part of NLP – neuro linguistic programming practice, and also part of that is focusing on positives that are achievable. Pregnancy can be a good time to assess and attract even more positivity.

    Great post,


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